Trauma, Loss and Gender informed therapy
Traumatic experiences can have a wide reaching effect on how we experience the world, other people, ourselves and can have a significant impact on how we view and relate to the future. Traumatic experiences impact on our development and trauma later in life can disrupt, or shatter what we believe about the world and others. It often leads to mistrust of others and we can experience shame and blame ourselves for the traumatic events. ♯thraumainformed therapy allows us to contextualise our difficulties, in the here and now, and how they relate to past trauma. Trauma focused therapy directly targets the signs that traumatic experiences remain vivid in our everyday life (flashbacks, sensory re-experiencing, and high levels of anxiety and avoidance of life).
Loss of people in our lives (grief), and the loss of hope of what we believed life would be like; something is missing, and the mourning and melancholy (Freud,) can lead to significant sadness and low motivation to engage in activities and relationships that would bring satisfaction, pleasure, as such, the loss feels more powerful. The importance of loss, needs to be acknowledged and explored to understand how feelings related to loss are impacting on day to day life and the opportunity to experience the vibrancy of life that may be available to us. Adjusting to loss is something that can be difficult to navigate alone.
Gender is one of the key markers of identity and power in society. Who we are and who we are expected to be within culture can have a significant impact on the way operate in the world. Sometimes this does not match how we would choose to be or is not in line with our values and beliefs. This can cause conflict within ourselves and in our roles and relationships. I have a special interest in this area, and in particular how it relates to parental loss, expectations, and transitions as mothers, fathers and primary caregivers. My doctoral research ‘on Not being a Father’ was related to reproductive losses (miscarriage and abortion) from a male perspective.